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Wondering why you get anxious? Counselling psychologist, Sue Winter, uses Compassion Focused Therapy to talk you through why it happens — and why it’s an essential human response...
Anxiety can be exhausting and debilitating.
You might see it as evidence of an inner flaw and be desperately trying to keep it under control and 'appear normal'. But anxiety is something we all experience, in differing amounts. It is a signal that something might be wrong, and it prompts us to take action.
Have you ever watched a bird looking for food? If it hears a noise, it immediately flies off, because that could be a cat looking for a bird-shaped meal. Once no cat appears, the bird returns to feeding.
We have a similar threat system in our brains, below conscious awareness, constantly on guard, ready to respond to any signs of possible danger. It operates on the same 'better safe than sorry' basis — it is designed to assume the worst to keep us alive.
If our brain’s threat system detects something which might be a threat to our wellbeing, it instantly triggers changes in our body and mind so we can respond to the challenge. It does this before we are consciously aware of it.
How strongly our threat system reacts depends a lot on how often it has been set off in the past. If we have experienced many negative events, then it can be set off by anything which reminds it of those past events, as it assumes something similar is about to happen again.
We can also react to safe situations as if they are dangerous if our resources are very low due to hunger, low blood sugar, fatigue or physical pain.
The brain has a range of automatic responses to threat. So that we can run away or defend ourselves, it triggers the 'fight or flight' response:
If the threat appears too powerful, our brain can protect us by triggering:
We do not consciously choose the response, it is dependent on past experiences, and at times of severe threat more than one response can be triggered.
Humans have much more complex brains than birds, so we do not react just to external threats of immediate physical danger:
As well as the threat system, we have a soothing system which soothes it down, but this is often under-developed. Instead we may manage our anxiety by changing our everyday behaviours to try to avoid becoming anxious, or drinking alcohol, taking drugs, comfort eating. These work in the short-term but have unintended consequences that make life harder.
For alternative strategies see Want to know how to manage anxiety? Start by activating your soothing system.
Please note: The human brain is extremely complex, with everything interconnected. 'Threat system' and 'soothing system' are metaphors, simplifying what actually takes place and there are many different ways to describe the same mechanisms.
This blog draws heavily from the writings of Paul Gilbert, deviser of Compassion Focused Therapy.
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